How to Get Through to the Opposite Sex

Do you ever feel your sweetie doesn’t understand what you’re saying? It could be a simple difference in gendercommunication styles.

What caused your last argument? Are the words you said the same ones your sweetie heard? It’s no secret that storms between women and men linger at the intersection of loving and living. You may find yourself asking, “Earth to sweetie, what must I do to get through to you?”

Here are 4 gender communication pitfalls with tips on how to avoid falling into them. While all men and women are not all the same, using just one of these tips the next time you disagree may reap relationship riches.

Pitfall 1: Men can separate sex from love, but women think that sex IS love.

A recent study found that a large percentage of women have sex for the sheer pleasure of it. Duh! But the study ignored the posturing of the genders AFTER sex occurs. Women ask me how they can push a guy towards permanence. The bonding hormone oxytocin, which gals have in far greater supply, drives women to bond with a man. But the male tortoise that tottered toward commitment now darts like a cheetah toward the cave. He feels invaded while she feels evaded. Hey guys, lighten up! The female black widow spider usually fails in her attempts to eat her mate after sex!!

Steve told Jackie he didn’t want to get serious. But since he was living at her home on weekends, she thought he would come around. Because Jackie kept pushing the issue, the couple ended up splitting for good.

My Advice: Yes, we know that talk is cheap, but if someone says the same thing to you over and over again, you need to listen! As my Gilda-Gram says, “If any partner feels s/he is in maximum security lockup, your relationship is doomed.” Sex is sex and nothing more — unless BOTH partners agree to change the script.

Pitfall 2: Men talk deals, women talk details.

Words have different purposes for the two genders. Women use them to solicit rapport, while men use them for gathering and disseminating information. In fact, men may accuse women of talking too much, but research shows that men actually talk more.

Lauren missed Fred after not seeing him for awhile. As soon as they got together again, she blabbed non-stop, describing every detail of the time they spent apart. While Lauren just wanted to include Fred in her life, his mind was screaming, “Damn! Does she ever shut up?” Unable to tolerate her constant chatter, Fred left Lauren in his rearview mirror. Lauren never knew why.

My Advice: Before pitching your message, assess your honey’s receptivity. Ladies, when your guy walks in and asks how your day was, ask him, “Do you want it in male talk or female talk?” Usually, he’ll choose the former, so offer a synopsis. Your feelings will remain intact while he goes off to unwind. Later, you can fill him in on any important details.

Pitfall 3: Women deliver “like-me” language, while men argue their points.

“Like-me” language preps the “nice girl” to ingratiate herself and avoid offense. Statements with a question added to the end (“The movie was good, wasn’t it?”) avoid issuing a judgment on the speaker’s behalf. Hedging phrases (such as “I think” or “kind of”) avoid imposing an opinion. In contrast, men blurt out their thoughts without subterfuge and tend to compete in one-upping each other.

Nice girl Traci was furious that each time she argued with Ralph, he insisted that if they broke up, he’d find someone else before she did. This was his aggressive repartee, a style guys customarily use without taking anything personally. After I explained to Traci that this was a gender distinction, not a slap in her proverbial face, she was able to laugh off Ralph’s competitive edge talk. Her new attitude softened all their future disagreements, and they’re now planning their wedding.

My Advice: Observe how the genders speak within themselves as a group. Know the stereotypes, honor the differences and laugh them off, just as Traci did.

Pitfall 4: Men want to fix women’s problems, but women just want to share.

When Marilyn brought her work problems home to Alan, he proceeded to tell her how to solve them. Unfortunately, all Marilyn wanted was to vent to someone with whom she felt “safe.” In my own relationship, I told my seasoned businessman boyfriend (whom I’ll call “Studly”) that I was looking to expand my consulting firm. Studly then escorted me to various booths at a trade show, introducing me to anyone who would listen. He’d begin by saying, “This young lady would like to…” as though I were a mute 10-year-old. “Hey,” I told him, “I’m an adult woman, I have a legitimate Ph.D., years of corporate consulting experience and I can SPEAK FOR MYSELF!” Studly thought he was “fixing” my dilemma and had acted with the best of intentions. He had no idea why I was so upset until I explained.

Ladies, know what you’re after before you unload. If you just want to vent, tell your partner that exactly. Guys, if your lady doesn’t tell you what she’d like your role to be, ASK HER before you provide solutions to the problem at hand. Women typically don’t want to take your directions any more than you like asking for them.

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Flirting Lines

After my oodles of help to the women in the flirting arena, I received a lot of feedback from men asking me to help them out with flirting lines for men, So, well, here I am. Your wish is my command dear reader!! The article I wrote for the women was flirting lines for women.

Getting to the point, flirting is natural. It is an instinctive reaction. Like, when you see a really yummy looking pastry, you see if you can buy it. Similarly, you try to get the attention and attraction of someone you are attracted to. Seriously, the theory behind flirting is just that simple. But, who the heck wants to know the theory! Let's get down to the fun part, the flirting lines for men!!

Corny Flirting Lines for Men
These are a bit corny and cheeky. But, if a really cute guy uses them, girls find it hard to resist. It will make them smile (secretly, they will be laughing in their head). Once you accomplish making a girl laugh, you have her attention (this is not just booky stuff, it's true).

• Your father has to have been a gangster... Because you are like DYNAMITE
• Oh! I feel like Richard Gere... standing next to the Pretty Woman!
• I think something is wrong with my eyes... I cant seem to take them off of you!
• If you were a burger at McDonalds, you would be McGorgeous
• Girl, you must be tired. Because you've been running through my mind all day!
• So, does falling from heaven hurt?
• So, if I were Barney, would you make my night LEGENDARY?
• Are you always this pretty... or is this for my benefit?
• So, do I need to be your friend before I ask you out? Or can I take you out for dinner tomorrow?
• So... You come here often? (do not use this anywhere other than a club)
• I know what you're thinking... you want to give me your name and phone number! Right!

Well, these are the corniest that I have ever come across. But the flirting line men use to get women to top the corny charts has to be "Your place, or mine!". (do not use it, we women HATE it!)

Romantic Flirting Lines for Men
These flirting lines for boys are best when you are trying to sweep a woman off her feet. However, spoiler alert, you better make good use of flirting body language of men while you do this. More so, you need to be genuine. If they sense that you are not be genuine, you will have something else coming!

• You have the most beautiful eyes I have ever seen.
• Do you like walks on the beach? (yes) Care to join me for one?
• My heart skipped a beat when I first laid eyes on you
• You are the most beautiful angel I have ever seen.
• You know what.. I think God was showing off when he made you!
• If I asked you for a dance, would you say yes?
• The moon seems to have turned green from jealousy, I am sure it's the effect of your presence
• I do not want to seem too forward, but I already see us having a beautiful future together.
• If I were Edward Cullen... would you be my Bella?
• (This one is perfect when you are comforting a girl who you love, but is heart broken)There is no one in this world who is worth your tears, and when you find him, he wont make you cry!

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Get My Husband Back And Save My Marriage

My Marriage appears to be beyond repair what can I do? How to get my ex husband back and save my marriage?

Learning how to get your ex husband back can be tricky. If you have been feeling desperate, and trying to figure out how to get him back after much time has passed of not being together, you probably feel a little bit stuck right now. Even though your mind is tired from the over whelming feelings, the rest of you is ready to do whatever it takes to get your husband back again.

However, having this type of never give up attitude may be the road block that prevents you from getting your husband to come back. What?

Probably the most common reaction after a separation or a break up is the feeling of desperation. Desperation and acts of desperation has killed more relationships than it has helped by a long shot.

If you are feeling like many women have in desperate situations you may have contemplated:

    * Calling him over and over again until he speaks with you

    * Sending a ton of text messages with questions

    * Sending emails

    * Checking his Facebook pages for updates

    * Or worse – begging for your husband to come back to you.

You need to realize right now that this is now how to get your husband back, and your behavior needs to change immediately if you want to win him back.

If you are able to put into effect some of the following methods you may still be able to get your husband back:

Cut Off Communication With Him

Depending on how long you and your husband have been separated from each other you will have a much better chance of getting him back if you don’t speak with each other for a while.  A little weird to most who first read this but more relationships have been ruined by taking the opposite approach, and hounding their ex doing all the previously discussed thing to try to get an ex to come back.

And they don’t work!

By not speaking with him for a while you give yourself and your husband the opportunity to sit and think about what happened, so you can get your heads on straight.  This helps prevent you or your husband from saying hurtful things to each other, and time to calm down so you can better determine what the future might hold in your relationship.

Men are extremely curious who like to be in control and maintain power in relationships, and by you not begging, calling, emailing, trying to talk to him etc, he will begin to wonder what you’re up to, and why you are not contacting him.

Often after a man leaves a woman his natural mind thoughts are to assume she will be calling and begging for him to come back. If you can control yourself and avoid calling him he’ll probably get impatient, and be the one who is calling you back. Most Experts will tell you this is an important step to understanding how to get your husband back.

Stop Feeling Sorry For Yourself And Meet Some New People

Ok so this may be hard especially if you depended on him, and did everything together, but you need to stop feeling sorry for yourself.  This is an important step in getting your husband back so make plans to get out with some friends.

Have you been wanting to learn something new?  This is a great way to make new friends, and there are plenty of resources probably in your local area for this. Don’t waste this opportunity.

However, going out and meeting new people does not mean dating someone new. The main reason this is suggested is to help you get your mind off the stress, and social activities are a healthy way to spend your time rather than sitting on the couch stressing yourself out. Dating someone else will ruin any chance you ever had to get your husband back.

Make Compromises to Retain Your Husband!

Unreasonable requests by either party in the marriage will prevent a long-lasting relationship, and may have what led to the split. If you want to get your husband back compromises will have to made with each other. This does not mean you have to give up everything you believe in rather its you and him both taking a step back seeing and understanding each others point of view.

If you are reasonable and can help each other compromise, he is going to see you as someone who is enlightened. Hopefully you succeed in getting back with your husband, but then again nothing is every 100%.  Following these steps is important but is not going to guarantee you getting your husband back.

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How To Save A Marriage From Divorce: Your Still In The Game, Don’t Give Up Now

All maaaaan is your marriage falling apart fast then you can blink your eyes? You probably saw this coming from a mile a way, but you couldn’t figure out how to stop this freight train, could you? If you are ready to learn how to save a marriage from divorce then you need to pay close attention. The game is not over yet, it’s just getting started. If you want to save your marriage from divorce then you need to learn how to make sacrifices, open up and communicate with your spouse (the days of keeping thing bottled up like a ticking time bomb are over), and you have to look at thing for what they really are without over analyzing things.

Pay close attention because these three crucial things will teach you how to a marriage from divorce, it times to kick thing into high gear!

How To Save A Marriage From Divorce Step One: Make Sacrifices

Countless times spouse that want help how to save their marriage from divorce are really more concerned in trying to get their partner to fix their problems first. If you are looking at your spouse as the reason why your marriage is crumbling then you need to take a close look at yourself. Your spouse may be the one that is causing all of the drama in your marriage, the one causing all the friction between the two of you, but you need to make sure that you aren’t adding fuel to the fire and making the situation worse than it really is.

Time after time many marriages end in divorce because either on spouse or the other starts getting selfish or feels that the world revolves around them. The truth is that if that is your perception, then marriage was hopeless before it begun. The two of you are supposed to work, as one and this cannot be if you are only looking out for yourself. You have to be able to give up parts of yourself for the survival of the marriage. It takes the two of you realizing that if you want to be as one, you may have to make sacrifices in the relationship.

How To Save A Marriage From Divorce Step Two: Open Up

People have the tendency to bottle things up when we are stressed. This isn’t good for any individual and it especially isn’t good for your marriage. When keep things bottled up for to long tension grows in the relationship, things are likely going to build up too much. When things keep building inside of you, you may reach the point where you do something that you may regret.

There may have been sparks flying when the two of you first got together. But that is nothing compared to the atomic bomb that could go off when you have let things stay bottled up for two long in a marriage. The longer you wait to bring to bring your issues to the table, the bigger the impact will be. You need to open up to your wife or husband to relive the stress of biting your tongue and keeping things bottled up if you want to save your marriage from divorce.

How To Save A Marriage From Divorce Step Three: Look At Things For What They Really Are

People normally have the tendency to make things a lot more complex and complicated than what they really are. We turn organs into grapefruits and grapefruits into watermelons. Blowing things out of proportion is something that many who need help save marriage will do that makes things worse than they really are.

Think about what it is that you really need to have in a mate. What is it you really need to exist? Try and simplify it as much as possible. Stop looking at all the details and try to find the root of the problems.

Are you making too many demands? Are you being too picky about how you think things should be? Are you expecting too much? Are you nagging the hell out of your spouse over minute things?

Take a step back and consider that you may be making things more complicated than they need to be. Simplify and you just may be able to help save marriage.

Do you remember the love that brought the two of you together that day? Seem but a distant memory?

Nobody ever said it would be easy, and certainly nothing prepares you for the life change that you undertake in marriage. There is no manual that comes with the marriage license that tells you how to make things work. So you blunder on, doing the best you can. But what if that’s not enough? Don’t be scared to ask for help. You can save yourself the stress and emotional heartache and re ignite the passion that you once both felt. Let Amy Waterman help you and your partner resolve your conflicts, and get your loving partner back. Its not going to be easy, but Amy provides you with all the relationship advice tools necessary to facilitate dialogue and works towards repairing the hurt of a failing marriage.

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How To Save My Marriage After Affair: 4 Critical Steps To Save Your Marriage From Divorce

So you want to know how to save my marriage after an affair? Has your spouse been out creeping around with the neighbor or even a co-worker? Or were you the one creeping around?

Nothing sucks more then finding out that your spouse has broken their vows. I am sure you are going through mixed feeling and emotions and to be honest that’s understandable. If you truly want to get your husband or wife back, with a little bit of elbow grease you can save your marriage after an affair.

Know doubt it’s going to be one of the hardest obstacles you may ever face but with hard work, determinations and dedication you can save your marriage from divorce.

Here are 4 lethal steps how to save your marriage after an affair:

How To Save My Marriage After Affair Step One

The first thing you need to do is make sure that your days of being a player are over.
If you still have the urge to cheat then you need to stop reading this now.

However if your days of cheating are over, then these steps will help you stop your divorce and save your marriage.

Marriages are built upon trust, and you can’t have a healthy marriage when you continue lying to your husband or wife about where you were and whom you have been with.

Not telling your telling your spouse that you have had an affair is lying. Chances are they already know or have a feeling that you have been cheating. So you need to tell them regardless if they know or not, even if it hurts you like hell to do it.

Honesty is the best policy. Even if your wife or husband does not know, somewhere down the line they will find out the truth.

Trust me they will, someway, somehow the truth always seems to surface no matter how much you try to keep it in the closet. If you try to keep the affair a secret you are only setting yourself up for disaster.

How To Save My Marriage After Affair Step Two

Things may be heated but you need to take the blame on this one. Maybe there was a lack of intimacy; maybe you and your spouse were having financial problems. You may even feel like your wife or husband drove you to cheating?

Whatever the case maybe people always tend to try and rationalize their behaviors or try to explain to our spouses the reason why we cheated by coming up with excuses. But the truth of the matter is that there is absolutely no excuse for cheating on your spouse.

With a little communication the problem you had with your spouse could have been brought to light and fixed. Marriages are not built upon blaming our spouses for our mistakes. If your spouse chews you out, take it like a woman or man and move on.

How To Save My Marriage After Affair Step Three

It is crucial that you apologize to your husband or wife. Your spouse needs to know that you are truly sincere if you want to save your marriage from divorce. It is vital that you let them know that you are truly remorseful and that you deeply regret what you did to both them and the kids.

Don’t try to explain or come up with excuses why you did it, just let your spouse know how you truthfully feel.

How To Save My Marriage After Affair Step Four

Your spouse is going to need some time to think so do not pester them by begging for their forgiveness or a second chance. Just give them their space. There is nothing you can do about the way they deal with the situation.

Your partner is really hurt and you cannot push them to forgive you. They will forgive you when the want to and on their own terms. So just be there for them but stop pushing and begging for forgiveness.

If you continue to push your spouse for a second chance you will only push them further away from you, and that we don’t want.

After cheating on your spouse things will be a little rocky at first. If you want to save your marriage you are going to have to win their trust back and this is going to take time and patience.

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How to Get Your Boyfriend Back?

A break up could mean the end of the world for many of you. However this difficult phase too will pass, if you handle it wisely instead of making a mountain out of a mole hill.  Intense melodrama and heavy emotions can put off your ex whereas a casual and plain talk would fail to get connected. Hit the middle way for the best results.

Don’t try to take any revenge to settle your scores with your ex boyfriend. Never commit the mistake of dating another guy just to make your ex envious as it is not going to work out any way. It would only distance him from you and could lead to a permanent break up. Swearing, crying and grumbling will not only let you fail to win your guy back but also could influence your personality very badly. Try to be normal and be in total control of your feelings.

Make sure that you are keen on building up the relation and earnestly waiting for his presence in your life. The best approach would be to behave normally and casually without showing any hatred or awful emotions on your face and move along with him like a friend. It could bring back nostalgic thoughts in your man and it will be only a matter of time before he thinks that it could be nice to be with you.

Make sure that you do not back bite or complaint about your ex boy friend to your mutual friends as these could reach his ears. So, play safe and discuss only the good moments you had together so that in case it reaches your ex, it will only do good and will not hamper the compromise process.

Win over his friends as they can be part of breaking up and mending up processes. Friends  might have influenced your ex boy friend in the past so they can do it again for a good cause and all you need to so is to convey the message that you are not as bad as they might have thought in the past. The rest is their game and in all probability they will start talking good about you at your back and this would greatly make the relationship repair easier.

The break up may make you revengeful and harsh on him, but may not be of much help. Try to be understanding and supportive in critical moments and be a true friend in times of need. This would help him recall the past when he enjoyed your limitless support and its effect on his life.

Memory is indeed a good thing that will help your ex boyfriend see light. Help him remember pleasant things of the past, without forcing things down his throat. Funny, romantic, exciting or crazy, bring out those old stories with ease from the treasure trove of your life and see how hatred and misunderstandings melt away into thin air!

Think of the pastimes and hobbies that you both shared and create circumstances where you can do it again. Make sure that you manipulate the settings without seeming too obvious and artificial. If you find yourself with your ex in a group of friends, you can suggest a leisure activity that had a special place in your past life. Be it badminton or beach volleyball or Frisbee, just drop a suggestion and chances are that he will participate in the activity with great enthusiasm. What if the group decides against it, your ex will even then be reminded that the two of you share something special and unique.

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