Change The Way You Think – How To Renew Your Mind

Many people assume that the battle to save a marriage is fought over our actions—i.e., what we say and do.  And no doubt this is partly true.  But that battle begins first in the mind.  If your mind has faulty assumptions or misguided intentions, that’s going to show itself in how you act towards your spouse.  Put another way, what you believe about your marriage has a direct correlation with how you act in your marriage.  Actions always flow out of beliefs, that’s just how it works.

Even in healthy relationships, both spouses are going to have some faulty assumptions and expectations that taint their outlook on each other as husband and wife.   But in a marriage headed for trouble, expectations and beliefs are often severely “out of whack” and need to be addressed more seriously.  This reprogramming of the mind is absolutely essential for any lasting change to occur.

At this point I hear some of you saying…

“But what if my spouse is the one that needs to change?  Doesn’t he need to have his mind reprogrammed?!”

In a word, yes.  But two things to note here –

   1. If you’re honest, it’s likely there are some changes of behavior needed in both of you in order to turn this thing around.
   2. It’s going to be that much easier for your spouse to change the way he thinks and acts when he first sees a change in you!

So regardless of who needs to change more, the change must first start in the mind, and it’s going to start with you.  Okay?

Trust me, once your spouse notices the “new” you—the change in your thinking and behavior, most of the time they’re going to follow suit.

Okay, let’s move on…  Does it sound difficult to change the way you think about your spouse and marriage?  Don’t worry it’s really not – you just need to get some new UMBA’s!

“What the heck is an UMBA”, you say?  I’m glad you asked…  :)

U – Underlying

M – Marital

B – Belief (or)

A – Assumption

Each of us has a number of UMBA’s, some of which are on target and some which are out of whack.  These UMBA’s correlate with how we act towards our spouse.  Since action and behavior always flows out of belief, it’s important that are UMBA’s are grounded in reality and truth.

To that end, the remainder of this section covers most of the common UMBA’s that usually need adjustment in a troubled marriage.

Are you ready to get some new UMBA’s?  Let’s do it!

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What Are The Signs To Look For In A Possible Breakup?

Signs of a break up sometimes is hard to see coming. Breaking up with someone you care deeply about is very hard to go through for anyone. Sometimes they come out of nowhere and sometimes they happen over a period of time. Either way they often leave you feeling shocked and confused. Why is it common to feel this way?  Because we feel like we just got rejected and we’re not good enough.

We also feel betrayed and like we just wasted a bunch of time with someone leaving us hopeless to ever find a long lasting meaningful relationship again.

Just about every emotion comes to the surface after a break up, and more times than not it can make things even worse between both parties pushing you further and further away from each other.

When going through a break up you will likely have all kinds of thoughts go through your mind. “What could I have done to prevent this breakup?” Should I have done things differently?” “Should I have done this or done that?” All of these thoughts are normal, and common for anyone going through a break has.

Good news is that those people who do break up can very often get back together again. However, preventing one from happening will be much better then figuring out how to get your ex back after the breakup happens.

If you think there have been signs in your relationship that point towards a possible break up you need to act quickly to make things right if you want to save your relationship.

That is the reason for this article – to give you warning signs your relationship could be heading towards a break up.

At the end of this article we will provide you with a  helpful resource to mend your relationship, and prevent your break up if that is what you’re looking for. If you can cut it off before it gets too far you can save your relationship and not have to worry about trying to get your ex back chasing them around.

Do you have doubts about the state of your current relationship? Most all relationships can be salvaged. You can still save your marriage, or stay with your girlfriend or boyfriend if you can identify what the common warning signs of a break up are first. Here they are – Warning signs you should be aware that your relationship is heading for a break up:

Dodging – This is perhaps the most apparent sign your relationship is heading towards a breakup. Your partner is avoiding you. Not a lot but more frequently now than normal.  Avoiding you, your calls, emails, and text messages.  And an excuse every time why they missed your calls, didn’t reply to your texts, or emails.  It appears they have more time with their friends then you these days.

They used to only spend 1 day a week at most with friends now its more like 3-4 times a week. This is a sign there is something wrong with the relationship, and you might be heading towards a break up.

Communication isn’t there anymore – Having open communication between partners is one of the best ways to sustain long term relationships. When the communication in your relationship starts to noticeably decline it could be the beginning of a break up.

How often do you really talk when you’re together? Would they rather read a magazine or spend time Online then have meaningful conversations with you? Lack of communication is no doubt a common sign of a breakup.

Increasing amount of Arguing – Another sign of a breakup is the increasing amounts of arguments that  occurr. Every relationship goes through its ups and downs. You would be hard pressed to find a perfect relationship where there is zero arguing whatsoever. And unless you live in a fantasy world arguments naturally happen in virtually all relationships. Its just human nature to have differences of opinions.

The thing to look for is the frequency, and to what level they get to expressing harsh feelings towards each other. Is your partner picking more fights with you? Are they a little more personal on h0w they attack you?

Your relationship could be in trouble. Sometimes creating an argument is their way to show you that you guys are not right for each other. Its their way to justify when they want to end the relationship for good.

No doubt reading this article you have thoughts going through your head right now thinking back on what has recently transpired. It’s very important to be able to recognize what’s going on so you can prevent it from happening. (If that’s what you want to do?)

The pain of dealing with a break up and then trying to get your ex back is an emotional roller coaster, and hard to deal with. It affects relationships with your friends, family and your work. And that is no fun.

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Saving Your Marriage Requires Changing The Way You Think And Act

Let’s face it – chances are you’re reading this because your marriage is headed for trouble.  Perhaps you feel like even now your marriage is all but over and that you’re only married from a legal standpoint anyway.

But the fact that you’re reading this more than likely indicates that you do want to save your marriage.  You’re not content to let things go as is!  Good for you, this is the right attitude.  And for those of you who may not have that strong desire to save your marriage just yet, hang with me…

Saving your marriage is going to be a battle—I’m not going to lie to you or sugarcoat that in any way.  You’re going to need to change the way you think and also modify some of your actions.  There’s no way around that.  But on the other hand, it’s absolutely possible! If others have done it (and they have), why can’t you?  You just need a guide, a blueprint to follow.  That’s where I come in… :)

In posts that follow, I’m going to be dealing with the task of your thoughts (changing the way you think about your spouse and marriage), and then afterward dealing with the task of your actions (changing the way you act regarding your spouse and marriage).

While I have not tried to be unconventional just for the sake of being different, I know there will be some things I say that may go against what you’ve been taught—and certainly against what some of the more well known “marriage therapy” books teach.  All I can ask is that you follow through in reading my posts and applying what I teach.  If you do, I can guarantee you’ll have a great chance of saving your marriage.  At the very least, you will feel better about yourself knowing you’ve given it everything you’ve got.

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How Do I Save My Marriage From Falling Apart? Your Foundation May Be Cracking But That Doesn’t Mean It Can’t Be Fixed

When you and your wife or husband got married you both vowed to love one another through sickness and health, until death do us part. However when times start to get a little rough things sometimes and your spouse may no longer want to be together until you die, despite your vows.

How can you fix a marriage that is on the brink of divorce? How do I save my marriage from falling apart when I still want to be with them until death do us part?

Has your dream marriage turned into a nightmare within a week, month or even a year? Maybe you both rushed this marriage and did not have a chance to really know each other. Or maybe the two of you have been together for so long that every little thing that you or your spouse does just pisses the two of you off.

Maybe the relationship is not where you want it to be or only stresses you or your spouse off. Maybe your marriage is so rocky at this point you could be slapped in the face with divorce papers any time now.Your marriage foundation is cracked and in dier need of being repaired.

The truth of the matter is that the most frequent reason why marriages usually end in divorce is because there is a lack of communication between spouses. Some couples have been together for so long and they both have become complacent. They have lived together for more then half of their life and never took the time to actually sit down and talk to one another.

For example, both spouses working to provide for their family and they only have two seconds to speak to each other a day. Many couples have become so complacent that they do not even respect each other’s individuality as time goes bye. Even simple things like saying “please” “thank you” are not being said. Who what have ever thought thing would have gotten so bad over the years.

Believe it or not complacency can ruin an entire marriage almost over night. Since you two know each other so well, you stop trying to impress each other you just let go. This is the wrong approach. Impressing each other after being together for 20 years will not affect your marriage. It will enhance the marriage. How was your relationship when your first got married? I am sure it was nothing like this!

Couples often ignore each other while living together physically and emotionally; everything is lost in the shuffle of bills and bullshit that really doesn’t matter in life. Like keeping up with the Jones’s. Who cares if your friends have a Benz and you drive a Kia. Don’t let the financial burdens of keeping up with the Jones’s ruin your marriage. Don’t let money destroy your marriage!

To get threw you guys hard time you must have a physical and emotional connection to succeed in a marriage. Simple things like that are often ignored and not taken seriously. For rich or poor, though sickness and health right? Well that’s what you committed to when you all got married.

These same people who used to love being around each other, laughing and having fun, now things have changed. What happened? Does this relationship still exist? What caused you two to stop liking each other? Is this marriage ruined? Was it something that you did or didn’t do or was it something your spouse did or didn’t do?

How do I save my marriage from falling apart? Find out the issues that are causing the friction in your marriage and fix them. I know it takes two to be in a marriage but work on your faults first then worry about your spouses. No one is perfect so think long and hard. Has your spouse been giving you clues? Chances are the have. If you can’t figure the underlying issues on your own open a dialogue with your wife or husband to find out were thing went wrong and how they can be fixed. You both need to interact and communicate your feelings if you want this marriage to work.

When the two of you no longer want be around each other or talk to one another that is the nail in the coffin as far as your marriage is concerned. When you go days without talking or you have no clue what the other person is doing, your marriage is in trouble.

Your marriage can be saved by just communicating with each other believe it or not. Does not make a difference what you talk about, you can save your marriage if you just communicate with one another. When one person talks, the other must listen.

Saving your marriage will be difficult. Like they say, “it’s easier said than done” this definitely holds some truth. This is a fact when your marriage is so damaged that it cannot be repaired.

To save your marriage, you must communicate, sacrifice, be honest, be trustworthy, and be companions. Your marriage will not work without those factors. Both of you need to sacrifice something in order for this marriage to be saved.

Your marriage can be saved; you just have to be willing to save it. Saving your marriage requires work and lots of patience. Take things slow and one step at a time. Your marriage will be stronger than it was when you first traded vows. Trust me!Don’t let your spouse slip away, start working on your foundation today!

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Save Your Marriage Today: 3 Keys To Transform Your Marriage

Recognizing you have a marriage problem is the first step along the road to transforming your marriage, and for most couples simply acknowledging there is a problem shatters the marriage myth. According to love stories, movies, and fairytales we are supposed to live ‘happily ever after’. But what happens when Snow White develops a drinking problem? What happens when Robin Hood’s long working hours start affecting his marriage to Maid Marian? What happens when Cinderella says she has ‘fallen out of love’?

We are taught in school how to do sums, how to read and recognize Shakespeare, and how to conduct scientific experiments, but what do we really know about the greatest social experiment of all, namely our ability to keep the love alive in our marriage?



The fact is we know surprisingly little, and from the moment we say “I do,” we are literally flying by the seat of our pants. We don’t get a manual or a textbook telling us how to get it right, so our marriage becomes an evolving set of experiments, learning and discovering more and more about ourselves and each other, and figuring out what works and what doesn’t. Some say if we don’t make mistakes we don’t really learn, but what do those mistakes cost us, and is the cost too high for some couples?

That’s why I have 3 ways to instantly transform your marriage. These are 3 things that you know will work and will help you get your marriage back on track. Let’s call this your error-free way to redeem yourself and your marriage in the eyes of your partner and show them that you are committed to making positive changes in your marriage.

The first key to transforming your marriage is to stop looking at your issues on a case-by-case basis. Couples that try to solve arguments by going into the small details of every argument are never really going to deal with the big stuff. I’m talking about the issues that REALLY matter in your marriage, and the issues that keep coming up in every disagreement.

Spend too much time at work? Partner feeling unappreciated? Don’t make love as much as you used to? Either of you feeling unfulfilled by your lifestyle or the relationship? Is the communication poor in your relationship? Does your need to always be right override the feelings of your partner? Spend less time worrying about the details and more time examining the issues and themes behind your arguments.

    * The issue is your job. The theme behind this may be balance between work and home life.
    * The issue is you not doing enough chores. The theme behind may be that you are being invited into making a greater contribution into coupledom.
    * The issue is your partner being grumpy with you all the time. The theme is your partner needing to feel validated in the relationship

If you have a greater understanding of what the key themes are behind your marriage issues you are better able to develop effective solutions that will really make a difference.

The second key to transforming your relationship is to examine your beliefs about marriage. It’s okay to not have the fairytale marriage. Even the best couples don’t always get it right. But what makes the imperfections good or bad is how you choose as a couple to deal with it. When you disagree about something, do you sit down and talk about it, or is your first instinct to deny that there is a problem and hope that it will all go away?

You need to understand that it is okay to be imperfect. In fact, admitting this to yourself and your partner can be one of the most liberating actions you take in transforming your marriage. Admitting your imperfections exposes a vulnerability that can bring you closer together as you find ways to get some meaning out of your issues. Acknowledging that you do make mistakes can open the door to acknowledging that there is a better way to do things, and one of the lessons we are called into as a couple is finding that solution together. Make a list of things that you have learnt since you got married, and a list of areas that you as a couple can both improve on. Then try sharing that list with your partner and ask them to contribute their thoughts.


The third key to transforming your relationship is in recognizing the differences between men and women, and acknowledging the importance of both roles in the relationship. Just because your partner views something different to you doesn’t make them wrong, and the same goes for you. There are often several interpretations of the truth, and the key to marriage success is in recognizing that women and men have key fundamental differences in the way they view things. For men, their view may be a much more task-oriented approach to fixing an issue, where a woman may focus more on the emotional process as you both navigate your way through marriage issues. While both approaches are different, with compromise they can both achieve the same result.

Write down 5 themes or issues. Then I want you to write down 5 task-oriented ways of trying to solve the situation. Then list 5 thoughts-based ways of communicating your way to a solution.

The first step to transforming your marriage is in transforming YOU. Being married can be scary enough, but having marriage problems and not knowing how to fix them can be paralyzing! All it takes is the ability to step outside your day-to-day issues and look at different ways of viewing your marriage. Every marriage problem invites you into growing and offers you and your partner the opportunity to learn.

Now it’s up to you to take what you have learned and apply it to YOUR marriage. You too can have a fairytale marriage!

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