Love Message: Top 10 Tips for Weeknight Romance

Once the holidays or her birthday is behind you, guys, the pressure to make your partner feel special is over for at least a year. Right? Wrong, Wrong, Wrong! Martians think of it like this: If your wife or girlfriend only had sex with you once a year, would that be enough? Probably not! Ladies don’t want to be made to feel special just once per year. It’s important to make her feel romanced all year long. Romance inspires a woman to want to be more sexual.
Ladies, on the other hand, give the guys a break. Most men think of romance differently than women do. It doesn’t necessarily come as naturally to men as it does for women. But keep in mind that most men want to make their partners happy. They may need for you to communicate your needs to them more directly throughout the year. Try these tips from MarsVenus.com to increase your weekly romance and you’ll be smiling all year long!
1. The biggest killer of romance is not enough time. At the end of a busy day you wind up in the same bed and comment, “Gee, when did you get here?” If Publisher’s Clearing House called and said your million-dollar check was ready, you’d make the time to pick it up. Make the time to make your relationship worth a million dollars.
2. Eat dinner together as often as you can. Couples who eat together create a ritual of talking and connecting over a meal. This frees up the rest of the evening for other romantic interludes.
3. The work week is full of unexpected plans. Remember when trying to add some spice that it needs to be easy, or else you’ll abandon your plans at the first roadblock. Keep it simple!
4. Turn off the TV!
5. Our readers tell us that women love a man with a plan. Plan a dinner, a trip to an evening art exhibit or even dinner at home. And give her plenty of notice because romantic feelings grow for women when they have something to look forward to.
6. Light candles and play romantic music … even if you’re not able to be intimate. This signals to your partner that you are thinking of them in a romantic way.
7. If you have kids, spend the few hours after they have gone to bed together talking about your day. Pour a glass of wine, sit on the couch and catch up.
8. Making time to have sex during the week can be difficult. Make a point to hug and kiss each other often when you’re too busy for sex.
9. Create a ritual of talking about your day together. You bring your partner closer when you share what you did for the 10 hours you were apart. This should not be a book report of your day, but rather a time of connecting your two worlds.
10. Establish a regular date night. This can be a time where you go out together, or stay home. Alternate plans, perhaps one week you plan it and the next your partner does. Keep in mind that for the date to be romantic, you don’t need to spend a lot of money. A romantic evening for many couples is as simple as a bowl of popcorn and their favorite movie. The point is that you plan time together. And try to do it without interruptions. Turn off the TV, radio and any other distraction. Romantic time is private time together — interruptions inhibit intimacy.
Remember: Romance blossoms when both halves of the couple put in time and effort to show each other how they feel. It doesn’t have to be difficult and it doesn’t have to happen every day, but couples who put forth the effort have happier romances to show for it.