Flirting Body Language: Attract Them Without Saying a Word

Flirting body language is by far the most important skill you'll need to develop if want to be be able to flirt well.

I used to play a game with a good friend of mine when we went out to bars. The object of the game was to get a woman or group of women interested in us, using just our body language. While this sounds pretty hard to accomplish, it actually got pretty easy.


 

We would walk over with good posture and a bit of swagger in our step. Then we’d get right in front of them and give them a sly smile. This would usually give them a bit of a giggle.

From there they would try and strike up a conversation with us, but we’d have to abide by the rules of course. Our responses consisted of winks, smiles or raised eyebrows.

This would continue for a while until well after the hook point (the point where they were into us). In fact, a few times we were able to land a make-out without saying a single word.

Now I’m not telling you this story to brag, but instead to show you the power of body language. couple showing off some flirting body language Most of us think flirting is all about the words we use when we communicate, and as a result we focus entirely on having that perfect pick-up line, or that witty response. While these may get a laugh, or an iota of attraction, you’ll find that you won’t get very far if you don’t have the right body language.

In fact, one statistic I came across said that our body language makes up 55% of how we communicate, and our voice tone makes up 38%. This means that what we say makes up for only 7% of our communication skill.

When I talk to people about what makes for good body language, they usually dish out a few generic points like: have good posture, make eye contact and smile a lot.

These are obviously important, but these tips have been tailored for day to day use. In other words, when you’re at work or out with some friend, these tips will make you seem more confident and friendly.

When it comes to attraction though, you’re going to have step it up a few notches if you want you’re body language to help you win peoples hearts. Flirting body language incorporates some of those basic elements with a lot more sexual presence.

Flirting body language consists of four different components:

Body Positioning and Stance – the way we stand and position our body has a pretty big impact on how people perceive us. The main things that people are able to gather from the way we carry ourselves is our level of confidence and our sex appeal.

Facial Expression – our facial expressions are used to help us convey our emotions to other people. They can range from something as simple as a smile, to something more seductive, like a mild look of arousal.

 

Eye Contact – eye contact flirting is a great way to build a deep connection with someone. Most people are surprised to learn about the various way you can use eye contact to convey signals. These can be directed towards the person standing right in front of you, or to the cutie on the other side of the room.

Voice Tone – the tone of your voice is another great way to help express yourself. In addition to that, it’s a great way to help control the mood of the other person. You’ll find that your voice tone is a key element in shifting things from being fun and social, to seductive and intimate.

By mastering these four components, you’ll be able to create massive sex appeal!