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Amandeep
No marriage is perfect. In fact, all have problems and require work!
When we’re embroiled in a battle with our spouse, we tend to think that everyone else has a great marriage or that it isn’t as hard for other couples to get along. In fact, because people often don’t talk about their marital problems, we tend to think that no one else is struggling at all!
Nothing could be further from the truth.
The truth is that all marriages have problems from time to time, even the very best ones. No marriage is without issue, and every single one of them requires work in order to maintain closeness and intimacy.
For some reason, many people I’ve come across have this faulty expectation that they will (and should!) reap the rewards of a strong and healthy marriage regardless of how much effort and time they put into the marriage.
Huh? Like anything else worth investing in, a strong and healthy marriage takes work. Perhaps that’s not what you want to hear, but again we’re talking about the truth here.
If you don’t move forward in your marriage, you will move backward.
This point is similar to the first, but I want to put it by itself to emphasize the converse—i.e., not only does a healthy marriage take work to achieve, but not putting in the effort will actually cause your marriage to move backward in terms of intimacy and closeness.
The reason? It’s simply, really. There’s just too many outside influences and factors competing for that intimacy that should be reserved for your spouse. Whether it’s a job, a hobby, or even the kids, if you don’t make your marriage a priority then other areas of your life are bound to crowd it out.
When we’re embroiled in a battle with our spouse, we tend to think that everyone else has a great marriage or that it isn’t as hard for other couples to get along. In fact, because people often don’t talk about their marital problems, we tend to think that no one else is struggling at all!
Nothing could be further from the truth.
The truth is that all marriages have problems from time to time, even the very best ones. No marriage is without issue, and every single one of them requires work in order to maintain closeness and intimacy.
For some reason, many people I’ve come across have this faulty expectation that they will (and should!) reap the rewards of a strong and healthy marriage regardless of how much effort and time they put into the marriage.
Huh? Like anything else worth investing in, a strong and healthy marriage takes work. Perhaps that’s not what you want to hear, but again we’re talking about the truth here.
If you don’t move forward in your marriage, you will move backward.
This point is similar to the first, but I want to put it by itself to emphasize the converse—i.e., not only does a healthy marriage take work to achieve, but not putting in the effort will actually cause your marriage to move backward in terms of intimacy and closeness.
The reason? It’s simply, really. There’s just too many outside influences and factors competing for that intimacy that should be reserved for your spouse. Whether it’s a job, a hobby, or even the kids, if you don’t make your marriage a priority then other areas of your life are bound to crowd it out.
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